Last Sunday, Paul Stickney, a favorite actor and friend of many died following complications from surgery.
Tributes are flooding in, wonderful stories, photographs and a general feeling of hard shock floating through the community he worked so passionately within.His passing was not expected, far from it and that flush of hard reality keeps hitting.
So here is my tribute to say thank you Paul.
Within this last year I truly got to know you and see your talent, great wit and huge heart in action. You welcomed me so warmly and grandly into your life. You were gracious in your feedback to me of my work, always incredibly encouraging.
You made me felt like I belonged, that I did a good job. You pulled me up if ever I started down the needy actor road, you reminded me that I was human and you inspired me to be bold. I liked that!
i would watch you work and admired how brave you were to create a vulnerable character while being physically so present and demanding - it was quite brilliant and a creation you owned.
I had an ambition, unfulfilled, to make you laugh, to impress you. I would feel a flush of pride when you said I made Mrs White (my character in Clue) come to life AND I have a favorite memory of you encouraging me to repeat in my Mary Poppins accent, the title of an XXXXXXX rated movie, just because it made us both laugh until tears rolled.
The Stickney Brothers have the best stories.
Always, always, always after every performance we would have a hug, check which date we were working next together and say I love you.
Now everyone reading this - take that on board for a moment.
There is a reason there is a great outpouring of love for Paul and his amazing brother David.
There is a reason that their community and family are shaken this week, and will be for quite some time.
There is a reason we must, must take care of one another. There is a reason we will support one another in tears AND laughter.
I sat eating cereal from a box tonight, feeling crap and it's simple - it's because I will miss you Paul, really, really miss you and I don't want anyone you know to hurt.................and then I hear a voice say...................
"Cereal????? Wow you should have gotten something better than that girl!"